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la máquina de la monogamia



máquina monogamia sexylittleideas

Los seres humanos siempre estamos tratando
de hacer cosas para las cuales no somos nada buenos…


Los seres humanos no somos buenos para volar.

Pero teníamos muchas ganas de volar.

Así que inventamos una máquina que nos permita volar.

Ahora podemos volar a donde queramos.


Los seres humanos no somos buenos para recordar cosas.

Pero teníamos muchas ganas de recordar cosas.

Así que inventamos la escritura.

Ahora podemos recordar todo.


Los seres humanos no somos buenos para ver en la noche.

Pero teníamos muchas ganas de ver en la noche.

Así que inventamos máquinas pequeñas que brillan que nos permitan ver en la noche.

Ahora podemos ver en la noche.


Y hablando de las cosas para las cuales los humanos no somos buenos…


Los seres humanos no somos buenos para ser monógamos.

Pero tenemos muchas ganas de ser monógamos (por alguna razón).

Así que en lugar de saltar del acantilado con grandes alas de cartón atados a nuestros brazos,

Como es nuestro instinto colectivo cuando se trata de lograr lo improbable,

Y que – como miles de millones de parejas infelizmente monógamas han descubierto antes de nosotros – sólo nos hace chocar con las rocas al fondo,

Si vamos a insistir en esta estupidez de la monogamia,

Tenemos que hacer una máquina que por fin nos permitirá ser verdaderamente y felizmente monógamos.

Una máquina de la monogamia.


Y estrenando nuestra nueva tecnología monogamadora, irnos cabalgando alegremente hacia el crepúsculo codependiente.

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battle of the sex… writers


battle sex writers sexylittleideas

Jon Pressick from SexinWords interviewed me (and two others) for an article he wrote for Kinkly about male sex writers. You can read his full article here at Why Is It Mostly Women Who Write About Sex? And here is my full interview, published below. (His questions in italics.)

1. What got you into blogging about sex and what are your favorite topics?
I love sex. And I love writing. Me, writing, and about sex was a logical threesome.

My favorite topic is irony. I like writing about things from the ‘duh‘ perspective. I love turning topics on their heads with titles like ‘Real Men Suck in Bed,’ ‘How to Fake an Orgasm,’ and ‘Why a Man Should Be an Asshole.’ There is plenty of intenseness and seriousness in the deep end of the sex pool, and I think if we all lightened up a little, we would have more fun.

A small footnote about semantics that I always like to include: I don’t consider myself a blogger. A blog is a web log. A log, in this context, is ‘a regular or systematic record of incidents or observations.’ I record very few observations and even less incidents. The description I prefer is column, which is ‘a section of a newspaper or magazine (or of the Internet) regularly devoted to a particular subject or written by a particular person.’ is more of a sex information, opinion, and advice column.

2. Have you ever actively noted that there are significantly more female-identified sex bloggers?
Why yes, Jon, I have. And with all of the throngs of them out there, here we are, just us men, gossiping about them.

3. Why do you think this is?
Keep in mind that what I think doesn’t necessarily have any bearing on reality.

Offhand, I came up with two reasons. I think that, just like in prostitution ‘men are where the money is,’ in sex blogging, men are where the interest is. Men wanna hear about, actively seek out, and even pay for: women having sex. Women being filmed having sex, women talking about having sex, women writing about having sex. I don’t know if this is due to culture, paternalism, the extra X chromosome, or just a big misunderstanding, but women seem to have much less of a hunger (and a pocketbook) for: men having sex. So I think the imbalance of demand could be one factor. I’m much more likely to read about a hot chick’s sexual misadventures and opinions than yours.

For the other brilliant and insightful reason, stay tuned to, and maybe I’ll write about it someday! 😉

I love emoticons.

4. Are you at all intimidated to write from a male perspective?
I firmly believe that there is nothing wrong with sex. To specify that, I would add words like inherently, consensual, adult, protected, and multiple informed partners. In that context, I don’t think there is anything to be intimidated or ashamed about, whether as a man or a woman (the latter of which, however, I have never been).

If women who write about sex get more leeway on the Internet Jerk-o-meter than men (meaning that they can write about experiences and topics that sometimes make us men look like jerks), then I think it’s only fair because we men get more leeway for our sexual actions in real life.

And as far as from a consumer perspective, I try to write things that I would like to read if I were to stumble across my own column. I figure if I am entertained and informed by my own pieces, then I can be proud of them no matter how gritty they are. If we sex writers are all confident about what we do and how we do it, maybe the prudes will have to take a spin on the intimidation merry-go-round. It’s just about their turn anyway.

4. What other sex bloggers do you enjoy reading?
Well, you. And besides that, if I had to pick one woman, one man, and one LGBTQIAETC favorite, I would choose:

Nicole Daedone – Even if she doesn’t allow non-user comments, she is vulnerable AND exciting, which is a rare combination.
My Dissolute Life – Even if he is a married and a man, he draws me. And I Absolutely Love. Short, Fragmented. Sentences.
Omniwhore – He somehow gets me to relate to a community that I am usually, in real life, quite distant from.

5. Is there anything in particular you might do to encourage other men to blog about sex?
More competition? No! Go away!

In all sincerity though, this isn’t a battle of the sex writers. I enjoy male and female sex writers equally. I do, however, think that getting to know yourself sexually will improve your sexual experiences. And writing about sex is one of the best ways to open yourself up to that side of you. So if sex blogging = better sex, then that’s really all that needs to be said.

nude photos, strap-ons, and dark alleys: february- e[lust] 55


rose Photo courtesy of Sex with Rose

Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #56? Start with the rules, come back March 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Why I Post Nude Photos (and blog about sex)
Discovering Myself Through My Strap-On
Sex Toy Shaming and Bigoted Wise Cracks, FTW!

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Aftercare and BDSM Play
Two worlds

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

*You really should consider adding your popular posts here too*

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Erotic Fiction

Come Again
And When I Take You…..
Ride on the Night bus
Superotica Valentine – Day 1
The spelling lesson

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Please let me just say “no.”
5 Easy Mistakes to Make While Flirting
SexyLittleIdeas – The Woman in the Dark Alley
Treasured Property
Supporting Love and Freedom
Predicting My Own Future
Let’s Go Down Again
How to eat my pussy
10 (non-sexual) ways to be intimate with your
Permission to be Human: Granted.
Squirting: What Science Says

Erotic Non-Fiction

Date with V. (N. Likes)
Saving Movie Night
Wicked Wednesday: Nervous
The Painter
Stolen Moments Turn Into Treasured Memories
The Art of the Blow Job and Deepthroat
Stun Guns & Happiness
Fatal’s First Time (with a Hitachi)
First Session
Probation Officer #145: Bowre of blisse 9
Trust Games


you will ask Me to fuck your ass
Fish & Chips
This is not an invitation
Men I Have Known
My Storyyy (Trigger Warning)

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

More Than Whips and Chains
Being shouted at: kink or abuse?
Explaining violence and sex
Awww Yeah – Targeted Marketing!
Grass is always greener – swinging
Lazy Dog Sex Position

Sex News,Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Valentine’s Day Sex Toy Selections
Discovering My Sexuality
Pathologizing Male Aggression


Sex is…


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the rest of the clitoris


clitoris sexylittleideas
Above, in yellow.

What do you think of when you think of a clitoris? -A tiny bump slightly to the north of the vaginal lips? You may be partially right, but that’s just the beginning…

According to Ms. M at the Museum of Sex:

“In over five million years of human evolution, only one organ has come to exist for the sole purpose of providing pleasure – the clitoris. It is not required for reproduction. It doesn’t have a urethra running through it like the penis, and thus, does not urinate. Its sole function – its singular, wonderful purpose – is to make a woman feel good!! Sadly, it is precisely because the clitoris has no function apart from female pleasure that science has neglected to study it as intricately as the penis.”

“The interesting truth is that the majority of the clitoris is actually within the pelvis – that is, it’s far more internal than external. The glans is connected to the body or shaft of the internal clitoris, which is made up of two corpora cavernosa. When erect, the corpora cavernosa encompass the vagina on either side, as if they were wrapping around it giving it a big hug!”

“Near each of the crura on either side of the vaginal opening are the clitoral vestibules. These are internally under the labia majora. When they become engorged with blood they actually cuff the vaginal opening causing the vulva to expand outward. Get these puppies excited, and you’ve got a hungrier, tighter-feeling vaginal opening in which to explore! What does all this mean? Well, for starters, we can finally end that age-old debate of vaginal vs. clitoral orgasms.”

“Let’s also remember, female orgasm is not solely about the clitoris and vagina either. It is far more complex and also involves the workings of multiple nerves, tissues, muscles, reflexes, and mental effort. Some women can think themselves to orgasm. Others can orgasm simply by flexing their pelvic muscles. Considering all the components involved plus the variability of human beings and their anatomies, it’s extremely important to remember no two people are the same. What works for one woman may not work for another. In other words, it’s all custom under the hood.”

Click here to read the entire article.

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two ghosts in the words


sexy smart sexylittleideas
or The Pen of Good and Evil

One of the things that greatest impacted my writing process as a young lad was a scene from the movie Finding Forrester. Sean Connery, the wise, ancient writer, says to the young, intrepid Rob Brown, “No thinking – that comes later. You must write your first draft with your heart. You rewrite with your head. The first key to writing is… to write, not to think!”

Thank you, IMDB for that direct quote.

So write first with your heart, then with your head. For me that means that my first draft is often a jumble of confusing ideas and disconnected prose that only makes sense to me. Sometimes this draft never even makes it to paper but just wanders around my mind until it gets filtered through my fingers into the keyboard. When it makes its first appearance on screen, it ends up making a lot more sense because it is actually a second draft.

My heart tends to come up with these crazy fun ideas that my head could never fathom as much as it may try to put its mind to it. Sometimes when I’m rewriting with my head, I’m thinking, Jesus, who IS this person that wrote this?!

They’re almost two separate people. Or maybe the process just switches from the right brain to the left brain, but those two brain neighborhoods are complete strangers.

The right brain (heart) comes up with a lot of great stuff – in fact, if you’ve ever read anything that I’ve written and liked it, it’s definitely that guy. The problem is that it also comes up with equal amounts of complete mushy, useless garbage.

Fortunately, the left brain (head) is pretty good at distinguishing the parts that might be decently-put and perhaps-interesting-to-other-people from the parts that should be taken out and shot. If you’ve ever read anything that I’ve written and thought That Sucks, it’s because this guy is still learning how to do his job well.

Sometimes I put him down for a nap and go do or watch something completely mindless for a long, long while while he closes his little eyes and sucks on his little thumb. (Monster vs. Aliens or Machete Kills are great for knocking him right out quickly.) Then when I wake him back up and put him back to work, he tends to be a lot more snobby, finicky, and sharp – which is great for him, in fact, the whole point of why I keep him around.

My point with all this may come out of nowhere, then: If you always speak correctly with perfect verb tense agreements, complete sentences, and no dangling participles, it means you’re speaking with your head and not using enough heart. Those among us who are grammar Nazis use far too much energy to decipher between ‘me’ and ‘I,’ which makes what they say technically spic and span but actually really, really boring.

I would almost say that the more correct grammar, punctuation, and spelling you use in off the cuff remarks, the less insightful, intelligent, and interesting those remarks will end up being. -Also the less ‘you.’Unless, of course, you’ve practiced beforehand, which takes the off-the-cuffness right out and puts them squarely on the cuff.

Think about it.

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lackluster lust


lackluster lust sexylittleideas
or No Pasa Nada

People get bored easily.

They always need a new theory, a new medium or a new take on the old one. A new toy, a new position. A new cheeseburger.

Blondes want to be brunettes. Brunettes want to be blondes or redheads. Models want to be promoters and coordinators. Coordinators want to be models again.

The people at the bottom want to be in charge, and the people in charge are sick of the stress and headache.

We have voracious appetites for the new, and in a way, I think that’s healthy.

But in another way, it can be maddening to never just revel in what we have now. The person we currently are.

I have an irreverent muse with a sense of humor and a mildly successful modeling career in Guadalajara, Mexico (which, I understand, is like saying I’m the tallest midget). I plan to enjoy the shit out of it.

What do you have?

A novel takes a year to write, but a week to devour. (!!So take a deep breath and enjoy every word of the page you’re on right now!!)

People get bored easily, and they get scared easily. Would you rather be never bored and always surprised (scared) or never surprised and always bored (cynical)?

I’ve never been bored in my life.

But I’m learning that nothing is wrong. And nothing matters. Nothing ever really does. Things always work out. And I’m going to live a drab, fantastic life, coasting along on my nothing-matters-ness. So what’s the matter with that?

Nothing is.

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are bisexuals more depressed?


bisexuals more depressed sexylittleideas

My opinion:
bisexuals are one of the last, most misunderstood and misrepresented sexual strata left before we start getting into the coprophiliac, pedophiliac community (weirdos – but who am I to judge anything at all).

Science: Research has found significantly higher levels of distress and mental health difficulties amongst bisexual groups than amongst equivalent heterosexual or lesbian/gay populations.

● There is a wealth of evidence that bisexual people’s experiences differ in important ways from those of heterosexual people, and those of  lesbian and gay people.

● Biphobia is distinct from homophobia.

● Bisexual people often face discrimination and prejudice from within lesbian and gay communities. These processes of discrimination are erased by simply amalgamating bisexuality into LGBT.

Click here to read a very well-presented report on this issue (by The Open University).

Click here to read a brief Huffington Post summary of the link between bisexual women and depression.

pills, dildos, and rape: august – e[lust] 49


cheekyminx Photo courtesy of Love Hate Sex Cake

Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #50? Start with the newly updated rules, come back September 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

A pill for that?

When I Get Annoyed, Shit Happens.

The Dildo Wars- Dildology & Doc Johnson

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Sense, Sensibility and Censorship

Triggers, Asses and Subby Places.

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

There is no Freedom Without Risk

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Decisions, Decisions….
Voyeurism Rant About Blogger/WordPress & Host

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Beautiful Rope Work – Easier than you think
Kinky Assumptions
As I promised…a singletail video!
Chronic Fatigue and BDSM
NSA BDSM: Failure and Success
Supporting your dominant’s dominance
How to Get Your Boyfriend to Spank You

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Rabbit Vibrators: How to measure for fitting
Acting! Thank You!
TItty Fucking
What’s Wrong With Sexy Scientists?

Erotic Non-Fiction

Keep Me Nasty
No Safewords
Being on the Ropes
The Lead Up
My Birthday Spankings#BirthdaySpankingsforRei
More Like An Earthquake
Stag at a sex party
A Fan of Fans
Let the rain come
Gangbang Club
The Polka-Dot Dress
Dinner for Two

Erotic Fiction

The (Not So) Innocent
Master’s Bad Day
When She Comes
Summer Storm
Lolita Twenty-Thirteen, Part Seven
Eight Ball
A Hole in the Pack

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

He hears me.
Why Doesn’t She Respond to Cunnilingus?
I Don’t Rape.
5 Reasons Straight Men Fear MFM Threesomes
Cap D’Adge and swinging
Boys & Their Toys
Anal Sex is Motherf***ing Awesome
Words of Wisdom
Seeing Red


rape porn, feminists, and coregasms: july – e[lust] 48


Icarus Photo courtesy of It Girl Rag Doll

Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #49? Start with the newly updated rules, come back August 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!


~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~


A Submissive’s Day

An Open Letter to Modern Female Feminists

Rape Porn: Rapists by Proxy?


~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Innocent Dark and the Sweet Talk of the Storm


~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Sex Toy Stories: Fifty Shades of Pink

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Erotic Non-Fiction

I’m fucking you, whether you’re wet or not.
Positions Filled
Second Wind
Snippets of bambi
Sir Knows Best
A Taste of Rub & Tug
Feels Like the 6th Time
Call of the Wild
Falling Violently in Lust with Suzanne
Submitting to His Will
Venus’ Orgasm

You don’t hit me hard enough spanking
Mirror, Mirror on the Wall
Swingers club, group sex & a queue of men



Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Description of my orgasm(s)
Casual Dating
Mormon Sex Symbols


The Big Ugly Self Portrait Challenge
Blogger is dumping adult bloggers; what now?

Erotic Fiction

Perfect Spring Day
Lolita Twenty-Thirteen, Part Six
Lights Out
I Am Watching
Wicked Wednesday: Karma

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

There is No Smiling in S&M – Usually
Break the boxes
Your Guide To The Perfect Sex Toy!
Age Inappropriate

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Ass Worship: Errant Oral & a Brave Submissive
Tell Me You Want Me.
Embracing My Strap-On
Talking About Kinks & Fetishes With Vanillas
Thoughts: Age and BDSM

Writing about Writing

Flat-chested Heroines


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